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Happy that he lives with his mother and father

Today sounded the last class ring for Alexandru. As for all his colleagues, the official vacation began for him as well. A year ago were very few people who truly believed that this boy, returned in the family after four years spent in the boarding house for mentally disabled children from Orhei would be able to reintegrate into a school of general education and keep pace with other children. But Alexandru succeeded. He succeeded because he was offered a chance and the necessary support. Despite those who treated him with suspicion, Alexandru learned the alphabet, digits, to write and read by syllables, poems and songs. And not only these, in fact, he learned to live again in the community.

Alexandru was born healthy, but when he was 5 years old, he was hit by a motorcycle and suffered a craniocerebral trauma. The accident has affected not only the body (the child remained with spastic tetraparesis on the right side), but also his intellectual development. The poverty, lack of adequate services for the child’s needs and the refusal of the educational institutions to accept him forced Alexander's mother to place him in the boarding house from Orhei where the boy stayed four years. A lost time for rehabilitation and the child’s development, recognizes now Svetlana, Alexandru’s mother, but she did not have a better solution at that time as she was raising the child alone.
 
Things have changed with the intervention of the "Community for All – Moldova” project that supported Alexander's mother in her wish to return the child home. Ilie, the current husband of Alexandru’s mother, shared her decision and became a true father for Alexander. The project’s support focused not only on providing assistance to reintegrate the child in the family, but also on improving the living conditions (purchase of furniture for the child’room, clothing and footwear for the boy), granting educational support with the availability of teaching materials and a computer that Alexander has learned to use it in a very short time with his father’s help. Now Alexander has his own room, personal items, toys and books - things that he did not have in the institution.
 
"When I brought him home, Alexandru was doing lots of things he used doing in Orhei – eating quickly, looking around to make sure nobody takes away his food, stretching the words when talking," recalls Alexander's mother.
At home he learned things apparently simple, but very difficult for a child who is unable to freely use his right hand and right foot - to get dressed and shoe alone, to collect his toys and get up and down the stairs of 6 floors independently. Moreover, he helps his mother in housekeeping – cleaning, washing dishes, shopping. The parents can go to work without worrying, being sure everything will be okay and that Alexander will know how to get along independently if necessary.
 
The positive changes are mostly due to the fact that Alexandru began attending the Moldovan-Russian No.3 school in Chisinau, where he was accepted and helped to integrate. His teacher, Catherine Dediu became for the boy a reliable ally throughout the period of adaptation and inclusion in school. "Alexandru is a child like everyone else, who only needs to be helped a little”, she said to us. I’ve never isolated him from other children, and his colleagues have always been willing to help him. During this year we have achieved more positive results and in the second grade we intend to work even more. It's a very good kid and I think that he will become a true man in life, “stated Mrs. Dediu.
Grateful to his teacher Alexandru tries to help her with whatever he can. For example, he assumed the responsibility to dispose the garbage from the class, the thing he enjoys doing at home too.
 
In order to cover the gaps due to the lack of education and training, Alexander benefits from overtime classes, which helped him to absorb new knowledge and thus to be able to keep up with other children.
 
At school Alexandru has made many friends. Together with his colleagues he visited the zoo and the theater. Without inhibitions and friendly by nature, he often goes in the morning and welcomes the school director, asking how she is doing and how things are going for her. Alexander says he likes school, because there is interesting, he has many friends, he plays with children and learns the letters and digits.
 
The mother’s doubts over the child’s future have disappeared: "Before I had doubts that my son would be able to lead a normal life when he would grow up, that he would find a place to work and would take care of himself alone. But now I am convinced that he can, that he will succeed. I think his future will be beautiful and full of accomplishments."

Now as he finished the second grade, Alexander is very proud and even thinks that one day, when he will grow up, he will have a job, like his parents. Happy that he lives with his mother and father, now Alexandru asks from God nothing else than candies and toys...